Do you feel stressed, overwhelmed, and exhausted
But have a love/hate relationship with self care?
Join us for an Online Retreat for Overwhelmed Mums
You crave time to yourself,
and you know you should spend it doing the things
that you know you should do
But you never seem to get around to doing those things,
and end up spending more time feeling guilty about not doing it?
We often say "yes" to everyone else
and prioritise everyone else's needs above our own,
but end up feeling unappreciated and undervalued.
After a while, we become conditioned to meet everyone else's needs first,
and then one day we realise:
You are snapping at your kids and your family out of the blue, when the anger, bitterness and resentment explodes out of you.
You used to turn to work for feelings of fulfilment and success, but now you're just feeling burnt out there too... You thought you had dealt with your perfectionism, but the people pleasing and imposter syndrome prevails.
You don’t even know what you like doing any more, or what you would do with time to yourself (if you had it) because you are so used to living by other people's schedules - so you can't even think of how to help yourself feel good.
I know how you feel... I've been there
I knew how important it was to give myself time and space,
and I knew that I should be doing yoga, journaling, meditation, but I wasn't even meeting my more basic needs like showering,
let alone doing these bigger acts of self care.
So what did I do?
I sat scrolling on my phone whenever I had a spare moment, numbing out because I didn’t know what to do with the time that I had...
and then I realised...
my perfectionism was still there-
creating ridiculously high standards for myself
(that I wasn't meeting)
so I was always worrying, doubting myself,
and feeling like I was failing
at work and at home.
So I decided to do something different...
I stopped myself from creating some huge, unachievable plan to 'fix' things,
and started to focus on what I could do less of
(and that totally freaked me out at first).
I focused on changing my interpretation of what a 'good mother' did.
I reduced my load and said no to projects at work
I shared parenting tasks across my village
I delegated parts of the mental, invisible (and unappreciated) load to my partner
and I started to build tiny habits to meet my own needs.
I felt guilty at first, and it was tough to stick with it, but when I kept going...
And I felt different
I went from chaos to calm,
from cranky Mum, to feeling happy.
from 'going through the motions' to being more present with my children,
from feeling overwhelmed to more productive at work,
from being distracted (by the 'shoulds') to being a more engaged partner, friend, and family member
Sometimes we need to give ourselves permission to take care of ourselves, and relieve the guilt we feel when we take time for ourselves.
How could your life be different
if you gave yourself permission
to start doing those tiny things
you need to do for your self care
(because you can totally do that).
And how could your life be different
if you started the journey back to yourself?
Where you feel so full and nourished
that you can rebuild your cup,
then refill your cup...
Here's your opportunity
Join me, and other like-minded Mums
for a 1 hour immersion and investment in yourself
60 minutes of bliss on a Sunday afternoon
Join us online, from wherever you are
just bring yourself, your device, a great cup of tea, and a journal to write in.
Because if you don't say yes to yourself, no one else will do it for you.
You will leave this retreat with:
less on your mind,
less on your plate, and
more in your heart...
You will emerge feeling calm,
with a plan
to do less
To feel empowered to make tiny incremental changes that will make huge difference to your life.
At this retreat, we will:
- engage in evidence-based practices to reduce stress, and improve wellbeing
- create an action plan to reduce your mother-load
- rebuild, recharge, and re-fill your cup to leave you feeling better
Sunday 20th June, 3-4pm
Give yourself permission, and say yes to yourself
Before I became a Mum, I thought I knew exactly who I was, where I was going in my career, and what sort of parent I would be... But motherhood really broke me. I thought I was holding it all together, and doing all of the things, after my first was born, and I went back to work, trying to be superwoman. I then had twins, and everyone told me I was superwoman, and I went back to work and did all of the things and then totally. burnt. out.
After 15 years in research and academia as a researcher in body image and mental health, I could no longer work like I didn't have kids, and parent like I didn't have to go to work.
I also realised that, although I had access to all of the knowledge about the evidence-based strategies that might help me to feel better, I wasn't giving myself permission to give myself time to engage with them. Once I began to practice self compassion, and hold myself accountable, I was able to overcome my overwhelm, self-doubt, and perfectionism, and to break up with being busy. I don't feel so burnt out any more.
I love to do this work alongside other women who are sharing the journey, and I am creating a community of women to do just this.